2-min read, life long reflection
Balancing care with candor is a life long process that takes practice. At times you might feel super wobbly during conversations that feel unnatural and messy, like you're walking on a tight rope.
But it's important to persevere. I mean, we all know that at sometime or another everybody will make a mistake at work; therefore, everyone needs someone to help them improve.
If you are or inspire to be a leader, make it your responsibility and your privilege to be the person who helps them get better.
That often begins with a candid conversation. To prepare ask yourself:
Have I invested in the relationship enough to be candid with them?
Do I truly value them as people?
Am I sure this is their issue and not mine?
Am I sure I’m not speaking up because I feel threatened?
Is the issue more important than the relationship?
Does this conversation clearly serve their interests and not just mine?
Am I willing to invest time and energy to help them change?
Am I willing to show them how to do something, not just say what’s wrong?
Am I willing and able to set clear, specific expectations?
If you can answer yes to all of these questions, then your motives are probably right and you have a good chance of being able to communicate effectively.
Want more? Stay tuned for a mind blowing article on Radical Candor in issue 9 of Comm|Unity Pulse next month.